Ep. 227- Emotions Are Not Scary [Myths about Emotions Series]

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Second Myth in this Emotions Series is all about this idea that feeling our emotions is scary.  

Feeling our emotions IS NOT Scary.

I completely understand where the idea comes from that emotions can be scary. As kids, we were taught that emotions weren't meant to be seen or even felt. So we pushed them down, hid them away and told them they weren't wanted. Our body then interpreted that it wasn't safe to let these emotions out.

As we start to open up and acknowledge our emotions in this work, our body basically sells us on the story that to go inside isn't safe. It makes perfect sense why our brain is doing that right? We in fact trained it to do this.

We have to recognize however, that in order to get the things we want most in life, and to truly have a fulfilling life- will require our ability to feel discomfort.

We have to change this habit with our emotions.

So how?  

1. First recognize the story you have around feeling emotions

We all have stories around feeling emotions. What is yours? Recognize it. Is it that if you feel your emotions it will take over? Or is the story around emotions that you might react to it if you feel it? Notice what that story is. Validate it.

2. Build Up Ability to Recognize Emotions

 In coaching 1.0, you are taught to really understand those emotions. Can you name them? That is a good first start. Keep practicing feeling those emotions- notice the stories AND....

3. Practice Emotional Sprints

Go inside for a certain amount of time and build up the ability to allow emotions to come out in safety. This will take time, but emotional sprints is key in order for us to build up that safety and trust.